It’s easy to wake up in the morning and plan to change. To say you’re going to be more positive, focus on the good, and pay less attention to the things that don’t matter. It’s also easy to get wrapped up in that slope where one bad thing happens and it becomes your focus, or becomes a bigger part of your mindset than you planned, and then you’re falling down a slope.
It happens to all of us, and sometimes we allow ourselves to rest on that without really putting forth the effort to ‘stop sweating the small stuff’. At least, until now.
The social media post of a cancer patient, Holly Butcher, went viral after her death and we have to say, it touched us in a very real way.
‘Those times you are whining about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively affect other people’s days.
Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.
You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.
Let all that shit go…I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you loot life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.‘
That was only a small part of it, Holly’s list of thoughts on life got very real with its readers. From reminding you to enjoy the fact that you can work, and work out, rather than complaining about having to do both. She says she wished she could still be active as her time was winding down.
She also spoke about caring less about money and more about what you can do for others. That purse won’t matter when the time comes but what you did for others will. She says go give give give and give more.
It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.
Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewelry for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.
Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too!
Her entire post can be seen on her Facebook memorial page, and it’s certainly worth a read. The only thing you can take with you is the love you’ve been given and the only thing you’ll truly be remembered for is the love you left them with. Things don’t matter, people do.
‘…but I knew him’